LET A MAN BE A MAN

WORD OF WISDOM

WOMAN ~Was "taken out of man" (Genesis 2:23), and therefore the man has the preeminence. "The head of the woman is the man;" but yet honour is to be shown to the wife, "as unto the weaker vessel" (1 Corinthians 11:3, 8, 9; 1 Peter 3:7).

Source: Easton's Bible Dictioanry

Ephesians 5:23 For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

Okay ladies I am pretty sure I am going to step on some toes today and if I do, well say OUCH and get your act together. That is right, today I have come to tell you that you need to let the man be the man, and that means the head of the household.

Oh I have heard it all, he is not saved, And! He is a backslider, And! He does not know how to be a man, And!

To begin with, who are you to say he is not a man? Let’s go back to the very beginning. If you were saved, then he should be saved. Does not the Bible tell us to not be unequally yoked? 2 Cr 6:14 Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness? So if you stepped into that yard all by yourself then why do you expect things to change now? Well God can and will change things, but that is for later.

Please don’t even go there with me about you aren’t married; I will really hurt your feelings. If you walk in crap it will get on your shoes.

You got saved and he isn’t. Does not the Bible tell us the man might be saved by the woman. 1 Corinthians 7:16 For what knowest thou, O wife, whether thou shalt save thy husband? or how knowest thou, O man, whether thou shalt save thy wife?

I am speaking of letting the man be the man, the head of the household. God intended for the man to be the head of the home. And I believe it is time for us woman to step back and pray these men into the place they need to be.

So you think we are old fashioned. No we are God fashioned.

Listen close to me ladies if he is good at cooking, then let him cook. If you are good at mowing the lawn then by all means mow the lawn. That does not make a man a man.

Lets go to Proverbs and see what the Bible says about a Godly wife. Proverbs 31:10-31. Please read all of it, but lets look at verses 11 ands 12. 11 The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil. 12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.

Now I know for a fact that all of you wife’s reading this can say that your husband’s feel this way about you. No ladies I am not living in a dream world. The issue here is to let your husband be the head of the household.

Numbers 30:10-15 (King James Version) 10 And if she vowed in her husband's house, or bound her soul by a bond with an oath; 11 And her husband heard it, and held his peace at her, and disallowed her not: then all her vows shall stand, and every bond wherewith she bound her soul shall stand. 12 But if her husband hath utterly made them void on the day he heard them; then whatsoever proceeded out of her lips concerning her vows, or concerning the bond of her soul, shall not stand: her husband hath made them void; and the LORD shall forgive her. 13 Every vow, and every binding oath to afflict the soul, her husband may establish it, or her husband may make it void. 14 But if her husband altogether hold his peace at her from day to day; then he establisheth all her vows, or all her bonds, which are upon her: he confirmeth them, because he held his peace at her in the day that he heard them. 15 But if he shall any ways make them void after that he hath heard them; then he shall bear her iniquity.

From the preceding verses we can see that God intended for the man to be the responsible head of the household. The mans word was final.

Ladies for our men to be men we in turn need to be women of God. In doing so we are letting God be in control, and God will line up things in your life for it to be as He intended it to be.

We should seek the Lord in all things. But I don’t understand. Oh yes I do, I have made my mistake in marriage just like many of you. I have walked that road.

It is a change, which we ladies have to make to get our families where they need to be. By putting the man in his proper place then the entire family can line up. No we are not to force or nag a husband to do those things. But what we can do is give him the respect that he should receive as the head of the house.

I will share a story that was passed to me of a Godly woman whose husband was not saved. She wanted to go to a revival in town and the told her if she went he would lock her out. The weather was very cold. She obeying God went. Arriving home the door was locked. She fell asleep in front of the door. The husband opened the door the next morning thinking there would be an argument. The wife looked at her husband and asked what he would like for breakfast. She never fussed or anything. The man was saved because of the love she shown for Christ.

Ladies for our men to be men we have to treat them as the man we desire from Christ. We can search the scriptures and find many. By standing on the [ was not in caps]Word of the Lord, we can and will be able to see changes in our men and in our homes. We are to look not at what we see, but at what we believe.

For as wonderful look at what God intended for marriage to be please go

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We are yours in Christ,

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