DEATH OF OUR LOVED ONE

Prepared July 29, 2006

We can never be prepared for the death of a loved, cherished person. Part of us is torn away, out of our hearts, out of our lives. Pain that is beyond expression pours through our body, pulsing in extreme rhythm. Nothing is supposed to hurt this bad, we feel there will never be released. We don't want to hear your empty words, which give no peace. We want to cry, to feel the pain, in spite of its hurt. Let our emotions control us for this moment. Let us mourn.
Let us heal in our own time and in our own way. We know there is no more pain or suffering for the one we lost. They are at peace, we hope already at home with the Lord. We loved them as father/mother, brother/sister, uncle/aunt, husband/wife or friend. And we believe they loved us in, a love that we feel strongly even now, one of the reasons for this emptiness we feel now.
Then we have the unfinished parts of our life that these people touched. Questions that will never be answered, speaking loudly in our heads. If we could just have a moment of their time again would they leave us so lost to the truths that we thought we needed that could only come from them. Is there ever to be completion for the acts that they did in our life's? Things they said or did not say, never to be explained or excused.
Unfortunately NO, and that will take time to heal in us, beside the passing of this one. So let us mourn, not only for the lost of them but for the lost of what we shall never know.
This is a peace in all of this and at the right time, when we have mourned as we need, we will turn to the Father and say with longing, "help me." He, this Lord Jesus of ours, will comfort us and ease our aching hearts and minds. And only through Him can we come to a place where what was done, or said will no longer hold us in its ugly gripe, and freedom will be ours. We will forgive what we don't understand, we will let go of what will never be answered. We will step into the arms of the One who loves us more than any other and peace shall be ours.
So mourn for the lost. The Bible tells is in Matthew 5:4, "Blessed are they that mourn, for they shall be comforted."

God's blessing to each of you,

rECj/LJG